And that is where I
got stuck.
You see, I feel bad
for all those men scrambling around for the perfect gift to show the extent of
their affections....and heaven forbid
if it isn't enough. That’s a lot of
pressure building up for a few weeks, pressure to live up to the dreams and fantasies in their
significant others' mind (of which said significant other probably hasn’t even shared to begin with.)
I think romance should
be a year-round affair (pun intended.)
Why not? If you feel so good
setting up a special date or buying the one you love a box of chocolates, why
do it only one day a year? Why not once
a month? Once a week?
LONG LIVE PDA!!
Genuine Public
Displays of Affection shouldn't be frowned upon--and I'm not talking exhibitionists
and extremists etc LOL--I'm talking holding hands, a kiss good night, mooning
stares over the dinner tabletop, grabbing an inexpensive bouquet of spring
flowers along with the milk and bread from your local grocers.
Romance is what you
make it. I admit, I get the groans from
my sister and other people because my husband and I still hold hands over a
restaurant table. We still say, “I love
you,” and send smiling little signals across a crowded room. I can probably
count on two hands how many times in our entire relationship he has used my
proper name because he still uses endearments when he addresses me. We are
still young and in love even after almost fifteen years of marriage and two
children. Who says you have to stop
showing it? Or only show it one day of
the year.
LONG LIVE PDA!!
Romance isn’t just
what I do for work….romance is who I am.
It’s how I choose to live and how I choose to express my appreciation
and love of those closest to me.
Romance isn’t just in
books people, it lives in each and every one of us. Dig deep, find where you put it and bring it
out again, not just this week, but all the time.
Stacy
22 comments:
Couldn't agree more! Doing something romantic because the calendar tells you to, is the least romantic thing in the world. Romance should be an every day thing!
Wow! You've certaily hit this heart with a stake, Stacy:) No pun intended. I absolutely agree. Romance every day of the year. And perhaps a bit of that exhibitionist quality as well? LOL We'll leave that one in Diana's court.
Callie Lynn
Black Rose
I agree! True romance--despite what we write and edit LOL--is in the every day. Hubby still holding the car door open for me after 15 years of marriage, or me pouring his coffee for him when I hear the shower shut off in the morning.
It's the little things, not the huge gestures just because the florists, card shops and chocolate sellers of this world say we have to.
Amen, Stacy! But pity my poor husband: my birthday is the day before Valentine's and his mom's is on Valentine's--and this year she turns 90. Luckily there is a great candy store in our town, so we're always popping in on the spur of the moment for a special treat for each other. I guess that's why we're still married after 40 years.
Well blogged! We don't do Valentine's Day. But I'd like to say we're as romantic - not quite. We do believe it should be an every day thing but it's easy to forget. I'm going to try and get him to read your blog. Wish me luck!!
Calvin and I hold hands wherever we go. At our age, we get a lot of amused glances. Some people even stop us and say, "You two are the sweetest looking couple." Great post, Stacy.
This year for Valentine's Day, I set plans in motion to have one of Calvin's books, Love in Opposing Colors, edited and put into eBook format via TWRP's Wildflowers line and hired Ariel Burnz to create an awesome cover. It's my gift of love to my biggest fan. I'm blogging about it today at The Roses of Prose. Stop over and check out his cover and read the blurb for his love story: http://www.rosesofprose.blogspot.com/
Even after almost 30 years (Sept 6th) Mitch and I hold hands, play and kiss in public. It's part of us after all these years. Nice post, Stacy.
Hooray for PDA!
Great post, Stacy. I'm divorced and never have been a PDA kind of person, but it's wonderful for those who have someone loving in their life and 'like' that sort of thing. :-)
LONG LIVE PDA! I absolutely love all the various stories! Thank you so much for sharing.
You're so right, romance should continue daily in a relationship. Little things count. I'm lucky, my husband is romantic year round.
Beautiful sentiment! I totally agree! The guys must feel a lot of pressure this time of the year. :-)
Two thumbs up, Stacy! If BOTH spouses in a marriage took this to heart then every day could be Valentine's Day. Little things do mean alot - just being kind to each other can be romantic. ;) The world could use a LOT more of this.
~Tess Thieler
Totally agree..... hug and kiss your sweetheart and say, "I love you," everday - not just February 14th!
p.s. on the topic of future questions...
I heard on the grapevine [rambler rose] that you're opening the doors to the mystery genre. Could you tell us how that's going and what your looking for, specifically?
Wow! My uber supportive husband and I have been married 28 years and with the exception of 2 kids (we only have 1), our guys could have come from the same family tree. Right down to hardly ever using my name. We even discussed one night how I always hear his siblings call one another by name, yet we don't.
And he spoils me every day in some way.
Brenda Lee recorded a song back in the 1950s - Little Things Mean A Lot. Do a search for the lyrics. You'll love it.
Great post. My hubby and I don't bother spending money on cards for Valentine's Day. After 17 years of marriage, we know we love each other every day. However, this morning he left his iPod next to the coffeepot with a note that said "Press Play" and the screen covered. It was our wedding song
<3
I, too, agree. Great post. I especially liked the line about - romance is not only what I do, it's who I am - very nice.
Good on you and your dh, Stacy. We've been married 43 years and still occasionally hold hands and pass secret messages. He always reaches to hold doors open for me and never interrupts me when I speak (he has better manners than I do).
Amen to this! I just posted on Facebook that I think Valentine's Day is a forced, rather silly holiday. It's more important to show your love year-round than on one specific day of the year. :)
I couldn't help but remember my days as a principal in a high school when PDA was a REAL problem. I read an article in the NYTimes today that said couples in India are only beginning to indulge in PDA. Cultures and hormones aside, I love to see couples show affection...it makes me smile. Thanks for the post. Rolynn
Wow! Great sentiment. After 21 years of marriage, romance has gone from candles and roses to "I love you" texts every day. And I wouldn't change a thing. It's the little, everyday things that mean a lot.
Stacy, you put into words exactly how I feel. My hubby and I have 27 years of love and laughter together, but I still shiver when he strokes my neck under my hair or plays with my fingers as we walk down the mall.
Long live PDA!
Nese Lane
Scarlet Rose
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