Monday, February 11, 2013

Long Live PDAs!

I was having the hardest time writing a blog for today.  Seriously, it is three days before Valentine's Day, what's not to talk about in this most romantic month of the year?

And that is where I got stuck.

You see, I feel bad for all those men scrambling around for the perfect gift to show the extent of their affections....and heaven forbid if it isn't enough.  That’s a lot of pressure building up for a few weeks, pressure to live up to the dreams and fantasies in their significant others' mind (of which said significant other probably hasn’t even shared to begin with.)

I think romance should be a year-round affair (pun intended.)  Why not?  If you feel so good setting up a special date or buying the one you love a box of chocolates, why do it only one day a year?  Why not once a month?  Once a week? 

LONG LIVE PDA!!   

Genuine Public Displays of Affection shouldn't be frowned upon--and I'm not talking exhibitionists and extremists etc LOL--I'm talking holding hands, a kiss good night, mooning stares over the dinner tabletop, grabbing an inexpensive bouquet of spring flowers along with the milk and bread from your local grocers. 

Romance is what you make it.  I admit, I get the groans from my sister and other people because my husband and I still hold hands over a restaurant table.  We still say, “I love you,” and send smiling little signals across a crowded room. I can probably count on two hands how many times in our entire relationship he has used my proper name because he still uses endearments when he addresses me. We are still young and in love even after almost fifteen years of marriage and two children.  Who says you have to stop showing it?  Or only show it one day of the year.

LONG LIVE PDA!!

Romance isn’t just what I do for work….romance is who I am.  It’s how I choose to live and how I choose to express my appreciation and love of those closest to me.

Romance isn’t just in books people, it lives in each and every one of us.  Dig deep, find where you put it and bring it out again, not just this week, but all the time.

Stacy
 

 


22 comments:

EditorSusan said...

Couldn't agree more! Doing something romantic because the calendar tells you to, is the least romantic thing in the world. Romance should be an every day thing!

Callie Lynn said...

Wow! You've certaily hit this heart with a stake, Stacy:) No pun intended. I absolutely agree. Romance every day of the year. And perhaps a bit of that exhibitionist quality as well? LOL We'll leave that one in Diana's court.

Callie Lynn
Black Rose

NicDarienzo said...


I agree! True romance--despite what we write and edit LOL--is in the every day. Hubby still holding the car door open for me after 15 years of marriage, or me pouring his coffee for him when I hear the shower shut off in the morning.

It's the little things, not the huge gestures just because the florists, card shops and chocolate sellers of this world say we have to.

Kinan said...

Amen, Stacy! But pity my poor husband: my birthday is the day before Valentine's and his mom's is on Valentine's--and this year she turns 90. Luckily there is a great candy store in our town, so we're always popping in on the spur of the moment for a special treat for each other. I guess that's why we're still married after 40 years.

Brenda Whiteside said...

Well blogged! We don't do Valentine's Day. But I'd like to say we're as romantic - not quite. We do believe it should be an every day thing but it's easy to forget. I'm going to try and get him to read your blog. Wish me luck!!

Vonnie Davis said...

Calvin and I hold hands wherever we go. At our age, we get a lot of amused glances. Some people even stop us and say, "You two are the sweetest looking couple." Great post, Stacy.

This year for Valentine's Day, I set plans in motion to have one of Calvin's books, Love in Opposing Colors, edited and put into eBook format via TWRP's Wildflowers line and hired Ariel Burnz to create an awesome cover. It's my gift of love to my biggest fan. I'm blogging about it today at The Roses of Prose. Stop over and check out his cover and read the blurb for his love story: http://www.rosesofprose.blogspot.com/

Calisa Rhose said...

Even after almost 30 years (Sept 6th) Mitch and I hold hands, play and kiss in public. It's part of us after all these years. Nice post, Stacy.

Hooray for PDA!

allywildrose said...

Great post, Stacy. I'm divorced and never have been a PDA kind of person, but it's wonderful for those who have someone loving in their life and 'like' that sort of thing. :-)

Stacy D. Holmes said...

LONG LIVE PDA! I absolutely love all the various stories! Thank you so much for sharing.

Judy Baker said...

You're so right, romance should continue daily in a relationship. Little things count. I'm lucky, my husband is romantic year round.

Barb Han said...

Beautiful sentiment! I totally agree! The guys must feel a lot of pressure this time of the year. :-)

Tess Thieler said...

Two thumbs up, Stacy! If BOTH spouses in a marriage took this to heart then every day could be Valentine's Day. Little things do mean alot - just being kind to each other can be romantic. ;) The world could use a LOT more of this.

~Tess Thieler

Taylor Anne said...

Totally agree..... hug and kiss your sweetheart and say, "I love you," everday - not just February 14th!

Maddy said...

p.s. on the topic of future questions...

I heard on the grapevine [rambler rose] that you're opening the doors to the mystery genre. Could you tell us how that's going and what your looking for, specifically?

Angela Drake said...

Wow! My uber supportive husband and I have been married 28 years and with the exception of 2 kids (we only have 1), our guys could have come from the same family tree. Right down to hardly ever using my name. We even discussed one night how I always hear his siblings call one another by name, yet we don't.

And he spoils me every day in some way.

Brenda Lee recorded a song back in the 1950s - Little Things Mean A Lot. Do a search for the lyrics. You'll love it.

Kathryn Knight said...

Great post. My hubby and I don't bother spending money on cards for Valentine's Day. After 17 years of marriage, we know we love each other every day. However, this morning he left his iPod next to the coffeepot with a note that said "Press Play" and the screen covered. It was our wedding song
<3

Margo Hoornstra said...

I, too, agree. Great post. I especially liked the line about - romance is not only what I do, it's who I am - very nice.

Vonnie said...

Good on you and your dh, Stacy. We've been married 43 years and still occasionally hold hands and pass secret messages. He always reaches to hold doors open for me and never interrupts me when I speak (he has better manners than I do).

Rebecca J. Clark said...

Amen to this! I just posted on Facebook that I think Valentine's Day is a forced, rather silly holiday. It's more important to show your love year-round than on one specific day of the year. :)

Rolynn Anderson said...

I couldn't help but remember my days as a principal in a high school when PDA was a REAL problem. I read an article in the NYTimes today that said couples in India are only beginning to indulge in PDA. Cultures and hormones aside, I love to see couples show affection...it makes me smile. Thanks for the post. Rolynn

Brenda Sparks said...

Wow! Great sentiment. After 21 years of marriage, romance has gone from candles and roses to "I love you" texts every day. And I wouldn't change a thing. It's the little, everyday things that mean a lot.

Nese Lane said...

Stacy, you put into words exactly how I feel. My hubby and I have 27 years of love and laughter together, but I still shiver when he strokes my neck under my hair or plays with my fingers as we walk down the mall.

Long live PDA!

Nese Lane
Scarlet Rose